The age old - Which Distro/Destop question.

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I'm downloading Fedora and Arch to check out, but I'm also downloading Bodhi Linux, which I'm hoping will be as good as the website makes out. Maybe this will give me the stability of system and desktop.

You should be able to customize any Linux distro, but some do make it harder than others. I find it easier to customize those that give you nothing more than a minimal base system to which you can add only those things that you really want or need. Arch, Crux, Debian, and Gentoo (and others) provide an easy means of doing just that.

Hope you find something you like.