Gender Poll 2007

[fingal]

Male here.

Looking for a female that is into computers, pretty hard to find though

You could advertise? I've done that before and got a date or two, but nothing long term. I'm thinking of trying again this year.

Actually, one of my female friends (there are one or two) has a job in IT ... Who knows? I don't think it matters if you share the same interests with a partner anyway. I used to think that way, but shared interests are just one aspect of dating.

[techieMoe]

You could advertise? I've done that before and got a date or two, but nothing long term. I'm thinking of trying again this year.

Actually, one of my female friends (there are one or two) has a job in IT ... Who knows? I don't think it matters if you share the same interests with a partner anyway. I used to think that way, but shared interests are just one aspect of dating.

Just my personal experience: you don't want to date a female computer person. I know you think having that passion in common will help the relationship; I did. Not only are they hard to find, when you actually sit down and try to have a meaningful relationship with them it degenerates into a pissing contest over who has better skills at what programming language, who has the better desktop computer, and/or what World of Warcraft guild you should join.

I'm not saying you should look for someone with whom you have nothing in common... just find a happy medium.

[fingal]

Just my personal experience: you don't want to date a female computer person. I know you think having that passion in common will help the relationship; I did. Not only are they hard to find, when you actually sit down and try to have a meaningful relationship with them it degenerates into a pissing contest over who has better skills at what programming language, who has the better desktop computer, and/or what World of Warcraft guild you should join.

I'm not saying you should look for someone with whom you have nothing in common... just find a happy medium.

Thanks for that, it's a useful insight. I have an online friend who swears he 'wants to meet a rock chick'. She also must support his favourite football team, be from the UK (he lives in South Africa) and be agnostic.

Thinking about it, he's being too inflexible. I've tried this approach and ... it doesn't work. Well not for me anyway. Bridget Jones springs to mind.

[chadders]

lol. The male majority does not surprise me :P.

[Isildur]

Neither does it surprise me but there are more female users out there than that poll shows. Just have a look at the 23C3(ccc.de/events) there was a whole presentation about female geeks. Of course these girls are pretty cool but a relationship is something different, I think you can be happy with a geek as well as with a non-geek.

[placeb0]

You could advertise? I've done that before and got a date or two, but nothing long term. I'm thinking of trying again this year.

Actually, one of my female friends (there are one or two) has a job in IT ... Who knows? I don't think it matters if you share the same interests with a partner anyway. I used to think that way, but shared interests are just one aspect of dating.

how do you go about advertising?? do tell.

[fingal]

how do you go about advertising?? do tell.

Dating? I'm not the world's greatest expert on this, but I do have some experience. I kind of gave up actively searching for dates after a few lamentable experiences ... I won't bore you with the details.

I've tried using a national newspaper called 'The Guardian' (I think you live in South Africa, so that might not apply) ... Often these attract a higher standard of datees (new word!) Avoid papers with boring dating columns where everyone is 'successful', 'attractive' etc. I would also tend to avoid dating agencies. I tried one once and they ran off with quite a lot of money, but the women on there weren't my type.

You'll need to write your own profile if you advertise for dates, and a catchy tag line at the top really helps. For example (and I'm really winging it because I don't have much time!)

Geek with plenty of cheek
<amusing and witty advert showing your amazing creativity>

Most people just scan dating columns, so things must be eye-catching and amusing. You need to really work on an ad., and don't just write it and then advertise: give it some thought. Or ... you could try online dating where you set up a profile and other people are able to e-mail you. Actually I hate those. I tried and I met dolts.

Chatting online can help. Some of the more regional IRC channels have regular meets, and women attend those. The trouble with online dating is that many people behave like oafs when they are anonymous. Not all of course, but many.

For further advice ask techiemoe. He actually has a g/f . As for me? I'm thinking of becoming a monk ... There's no doubt about it, relationships require hard work: you actually have to build them bit by bit. Some people meet, move in, get married and get generally carried away. I'm more cautious than that, and prefer to make friends first.

[techieMoe]

For further advice ask techiemoe. He actually has a g/f . As for me? I'm thinking of becoming a monk ... There's no doubt about it, relationships require hard work: you actually have to build them bit by bit. Some people meet, move in, get married and get generally carried away. I'm more cautious than that, and prefer to make friends first.

I can't say my method works for everyone, but it has found me several girlfriends in the past couple of years. (I guess the fact that I've had to keep getting new ones might discount it a bit... but oh well.)

I use dating sites. There's a social stigma attached to them for some reason, but it's a more reasonable way of meeting people than going to a bar, in my opinion. Even when I wasn't dating someone exclusively, I actually got dates during those times due to these sites. Some are free, some are not. In my personal experience the paid ones gave me better results (and less weirdos) than the free ones, but your mileage may vary.

Dating sites are essentially the internet equivalent to posting a newspaper ad. There are distinct advantages to either method. The sites usually offer you a few pictures and a profile to look at as well as personality traits. Most sites also allow you to communicate with the other person completely anonymously until you're comfortable they're not an ax murderer, and if you run into one of those it's usually easy to sever all contact. (I don't say that from personal experience; all the ladies I've talked to have been quite nice.)

[placeb0]

Dating? I'm not the world's greatest expert on this, but I do have some experience. I kind of gave up actively searching for dates after a few lamentable experiences ... I won't bore you with the details.

I've tried using a national newspaper called 'The Guardian' (I think you live in South Africa, so that might not apply) ... Often these attract a higher standard of datees (new word!) Avoid papers with boring dating columns where everyone is 'successful', 'attractive' etc. I would also tend to avoid dating agencies. I tried one once and they ran off with quite a lot of money, but the women on there weren't my type.

You'll need to write your own profile if you advertise for dates, and a catchy tag line at the top really helps. For example (and I'm really winging it because I don't have much time!)

Geek with plenty of cheek
<amusing and witty advert showing your amazing creativity>

Most people just scan dating columns, so things must be eye-catching and amusing. You need to really work on an ad., and don't just write it and then advertise: give it some thought. Or ... you could try online dating where you set up a profile and other people are able to e-mail you. Actually I hate those. I tried and I met dolts.

Chatting online can help. Some of the more regional IRC channels have regular meets, and women attend those. The trouble with online dating is that many people behave like oafs when they are anonymous. Not all of course, but many.

For further advice ask techiemoe. He actually has a g/f . As for me? I'm thinking of becoming a monk ... There's no doubt about it, relationships require hard work: you actually have to build them bit by bit. Some people meet, move in, get married and get generally carried away. I'm more cautious than that, and prefer to make friends first.

Thanks for the advice, pal.

I just dont quite understand the whole "Online/Internet Dating" seems kinda fake to me.

ps. I am imagine all the females in irc lol

[RoadRodent]

Yep another Male!

Maybe Linux is a male rebel thing! Well just an idea.

placebO - Dating is all a game. Be a gamer and be cynical, hormones will mislead you! When it's time to be serious you'll know.