how to get the tcp header of a received packet in socket programming?

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I want to get the TCP header of each received TCP packet (destined for a specific program,namely, a port)
it seems not possible to use recv() or recvfrom() to get the TCP header using regular socket.

So, I want to use raw socket
with raw socket, I can use recvfrom() to receive all IP packets destined to the host
if the host receives a lot packets,
I need to check the port number of each packet so see whether it is the needed.
then it could be very time and CPU comsuming?

    while（）
    {
    recvfrom();
    check_port_number(); 
    }

are there any good ways to get the tcp header of a received tcp packet?