Looked at
http://www.linuxformat.com/forums/vi...c.php?p=100567 but it did not help at all. I can go from lubuntu to ubuntu but not ubuntu to lubuntu.

user@ubuntu:~$ xtightvncviewer 192.168.2.5
xtightvncviewer: ConnectToTcpAddr: connect: Connection refused
Unable to connect to VNC server
user@ubuntu:~$ vncviewer 192.168.2.5
vncviewer: ConnectToTcpAddr: connect: Connection refused
Unable to connect to VNC server

Have firewall turned off and have vino installed with vino-preferences set for remote access.

did sudo tightvncserver to set the passwords

like tightvnc for
xtightvncviewer -via "pete@1.2.3.4 -p 22" -compresslevel 9 -x11cursor