OK, i figured it out. Here is what you have to do:
open synaptic and go to search, then type in eject. At first, it will come up with nothing, but then you click the "reload" buttion(upper right corner) and it will download all the search results from the reposatories. After it is done, you should see the package "eject" under your search. Mark it for install and the install it. Then, the next time your ipod is mounted, dont use the "umount" command, instead just type "# eject /dev/sda" and the "do not disconnect" screen will disappear forever!!!!
